Pledges have been in the news lately. Political ones that blur the line between a politician’s personal and political life. I actually feel sorry for some members of the GOP who are being strong-armed into making such pledges. It’s a line in the sand, and one that divides  and makes people often make unrealistic promises.

What if marriages were like that? Marriage involves promise, and a signed document, it’s true. But what if every little thing–tie choice, food preference, toothpaste cap behavior– required a pledge?  I imagine some marriages are like that.

Marriage, like politics, often requires nuance and fluidity. I pledge we get rid of pledges.